In 1998, Sara started working for MedCost.
Unbeknownst to her, around 2002 a fellow who had an obsession with
Macintosh computers, named Cliff Muncy, started working there too.
As it turns out, Sara's dad was his boss, and she now recalls dad talking about some
guy who worked on nightshift and sang in a quartet and decked out
his truck in twinkly Christmas lights.
Fast forward 7 years or so: Sara decided
to post an ad on Yahoo! Personals. Not really looking for a serious
relationship, she opts for the free ad to see what kind of "bites"
she would get on her dating line. Unimpressed with the caliber of
men who approached her, she gave up hope of ever finding love and
resigned herself to a life of spinsterhood and cat food.
Then, she stumbled across this ad for a
guy with a CRAZY long profile. It was divided into sections and
categorized with pictures galore. So, she
sent an "Ice Breaker" (the only type of correspondence allowed between non-paying members) to see if maybe he would be interested in her,
too. A week went by with no response.
Meanwhile, Cliff had just gotten out of a relationship, and as a result knew
exactly what he wanted out of a relationship, and exactly what he
didn't want. So he got RIGHT back in the 'dating world'. He had
already subscribed to one other dating service, and had free profiles
out there too. He talked to a few other girls, and then - one fateful
day - he received an Ice Breaker on Yahoo! from this cute girl!
Conflicted, because he had
just paid for this other dating service, he talked to his mom about
it and she encouraged him to go for it!!! So, he did.
On Friday October 23rd, 2008 Cliff sent a
message to Sara which said: "My first thoughts? 'So, she is local
and very pretty, a Christian, and has a lot of matching preferences...'
So, what's the catch?"
We went out and met each other the very next
day. Was it love at first sight? No. But we knew there was SOMETHING
there, because our first date was 8 hours long and we still had
things to talk about the next day. All of these similarities and
mutual friends started surfacing (I mean, who knew Cliff's supervisor
at MedCost would eventually become his father-in-law??) and while
it may not have been love at first sight, we both knew that God
had a hand in orchestrating our meeting and bringing us together.
Thus began a whirlwind weekend... and a whirlwind love affair.
The more time we spent together, the more
piercing the realization that we were each the missing pieces to
our respective puzzles. A girl who likes Star Trek? A boy who makes
the bed? And truly, it's rare to find two people more amused by
bodily functions than we are. Ultimately what we found in one another
was a realness that would nearly melt the heart had it not been
so strengthened and filled by the other.
didn't do anything cutesy or typical. In true Sara-n-Cliff fashion,
the stereotypical "system" was shunned, and there was no 'official'
proposal of marriage. We had talked a lot about marriage, and the
timing thereof, so one Sunday afternoon I looked at Cliff and
asked if he wanted to go look at rings. He agreed, and the next
thing I knew, Cliff was looking at the sales person, and telling
her to put the ring in the bag.
We were both sweating bullets when
the money changed hands - realizing what we had just done and what
it meant for the remainder of our lives here on Earth.
By the time we got back to the truck, Cliff
was researching the return policy (ha ha, no really). In the end, we didn't return the ring. We kept the decision to ourselves
for a while, and treasured the beautiful brevity of the commitment
that was being woven between us. We took the opportunity
of our joint-birthday party in May 2009 to make the announcement
official to those in attendance.
Fairly early on in our relationship, we began
researching the matter of the marriage 'license'. Why should we
get one? What's up with the state and who said it was ok for them
to get involved? Isn't the purpose of a license to grant permission
by a competent authority to do something which would otherwise be
illegal or unlawful? After MUCH prayer, MUCH thought, MUCH discussion
- we decided there was NO reason to get a license, that it is NOT
ok for the state to be a partner in our marriage, and that the licensing
of our marriage would be WRONG. It would cheapen our commitment
and make a mockery of the covenant we were entering into with one
another - before God.
We took comfort in knowing we were not alone!
Many have made similar stands, and opted out of the marriage license
- choosing rather to enter into a covenant with one another, performed
in front of family and friends. However, for our ceremony, we wanted
to put together more information for those who may be curious about
the lawfulness or legitimacy of our union - and what we found is
that there is very little information out there! So, instead of
a standard 'wedding program', we put together an informational booklet
for our family and friends, and others who might be curious. We
also had a lawful covenant drawn up and signed by both of us and
our witnesses as part of the ceremony itself. We exchanged vows,
and then all went out for a simple dinner afterward. Sweet. Simple.
We wouldn't have wanted it any other way.
Most little girls dream of beautiful white
weddings with scores of guests and flowers and over priced dresses.
Something borrowed... something blue... something ol... um, no.
Much to Cliff's relief, Sara is not a fan of tradition and has always
wanted a small, simple wedding. While we wish ALL of the people
in our lives could have been in attendance at our ceremony, our
desire to keep things meaningful and simple outweighed our desire
for fanfare and bridesmaids.
So, we limited the attendees to immediate
family (our parents, our siblings, and our grandparents) only. It
was tough, but well worth it. It was very low key, and allowed us
both to enjoy one another and not miss one tasty morsel of that
very special moment!
Now. This is where YOU come in!!! We've had
opportunity to settle in, and honeymoon, and get used to one another's
morning breath - and now we are throwing a big blow out party in
celebration of our covenant, and hope that ALL of our friends and
family will be able to be in attendance!!!
We would love nothing more than to be surrounded
by the people we love, as we take this time to celebrate our union
and to celebrate YOU! You who have supported us, and friended us,
and encouraged us, and laughed with us, and cried with us, and walked
with us as we have journeyed toward who we are today as individuals
- and who we are as a couple. This story would be incomplete without
you, and we sincerely hope that you'll join us as we set out to
pen this new chapter. Oh - and get your PARTAAAAY on. Naturally.
How Do I Get Married Without a License? - Article by Cliff Muncy
Cliff & Sara's Wedding Video - Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4
Chuck Baldwin Black Regiment - A state-by-state listing of black regiment preachers.
CarolinaLiberty.com - The study group we attended before we got married.
AmericasRemedy.com - Educational presentations about state citizenship and the unconstitutionality of Reconstruction.
- the de jure (lawful) state of North Carolina.